Colel Chabad Chanukah Retreat

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In April of 2004, Ruth Zagha was just seven years old, the fourth of six children, when a terrorist attacked her home in the Shomron town of Avnei Chefetz on a Friday night shortly after the family had completed their Shabbos meal. Her father, Kobi, armed with a pistol, went to confront the terrorist and was shot dead, and one of Ruti’s sisters was seriously injured.

Since that time, Ruth and her siblings and mother have worked to find ways to confront the tragic loss of a parent as well as the emotional toll of surviving an attack designed to kill her entire family.

This week, Ruth’s past was able to provide herself and others a measure of comfort when she was given the chance to help a family who experienced a similar trauma in one of the most recent horrific attacks to strike Israel.

This past summer, the Salomon family was finishing up their Friday-night meal when a terrorist burst into the home in the town of Neve Tzuf (Halamish) and stabbed three people to their deaths—Yosef Salomon, 70, and his daughter Chaya, 46, and son Elad, 36, a husband and father of five young children.

Over Chanukah the two families’ stories of tragedy converged when Ruth was chosen to serve as a babysitter for Elad’s younger children during a special holiday getaway for women and children who had lost a loved one to tragedy. The program, now in its 16th year, is coordinated by Colel Chabad, which, founded in 1788, is the longest-running charity in Israel, and is intended to give these families a chance to experience Chanukah alongside others who have experienced similar loss in their lives.

Ruth says she accepted the responsibility of helping the young Salomon children who had experienced something very similar to what she had gone through when her father was killed, albeit with some trepidation. “My message to the kids is to try—however difficult it might sometimes seem—to find the good in life because it’s still there.” And she says that despite her nervousness that this role would cause her to recall many of the traumas that defined her earlier years, the effect of seeing children who can remain happy despite the horrors they’ve experienced is invigorating.

Michal Salomon, Elad’s widow, describes the Chanukah experience as the best possible way that her family could spend the holiday just five months after surviving the attack. “When I walk outside, I meet people who console me and hug me, and every bit of support is deeply appreciated. But here I can feel truly at home because everyone is in the same boat; they’ve experienced that same loss and they are able to understand what we are confronting,” she says. “When I heard that the madricha had gone through what she had gone through, it really gave me a sense that here would be different. And that’s definitely what I found and I’m deeply grateful.”

The Colel Chabad getaway welcomed a total of 50 mothers and 300 children, all of whom had lost their father to a terror attack, tragedy, or illness.

The program is just one part of the Chesed Menachem Mendel initiative which follows these families throughout the year, providing them with financial, social, and academic support. The Chanukah program takes place at the Ramada Renaissance Hotel in Jerusalem and includes entertainment, meals, day trips, and gifts. Childcare and help by those like Ruth is provided throughout so the mothers can relax alongside their families. All expenses are covered by Colel Chabad and the Finger family.

“Chanukah is both a time of joy and loss for these families and we work to help them focus on the joy while still remembering family members who are no longer with us,” said Rabbi Sholom Duchman, director of Colel Chabad. “This is achieved by dynamic programming that promotes happiness and entertainment but doesn’t dismiss the fact that these children and families aren’t celebrating the holiday in a complete way. So our goal is to provide hope but not ignore the loss.”

Ruth Zagha says she and her family have been assisted by Colel Chabad from the time soon after her father was killed. “Perhaps the main thing that comes with living in the wake of a terror attack on your family is the sense that things will never be the same. There is no idea of life ever being normal again and you feel different from everyone else. But when you come to a place like this and a program like this, here we can all be ‘normal’ because here we are all the same. It’s incredibly comforting to not be the different one.”

 

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